Throwing Grenades Into Your life

We have all done it, thrown a grenade into our life when we have told ourselves things are good. But if we were happy, I mean truly happy, would we have just made that massive jump that screwed it all up? Ehhh, I am going to lean toward a no here.

Now hear me out; I am about to say something pretty 'self-helpy,' but roll with it. I have done this. Take a hard look at what you blew up and why?

What will change because of my choices?

In a recent conversation with someone I love to mentor, she expressed her stress over massive life changes. "Why did I go with the more stressful option?". She was doing well in Boston, with the cute apartment, live-in boyfriend, couple of cats, and job she enjoyed. Why didn't she pick the online program and stay put?

My answer: Sometimes, we have to blow things up so we don't look back and regret it. She always talked about going back to grad school and wanted to be fully immersed in the program in person. She needed to do this for herself; the rest is meant to be how it works. Knowing her, I think it's going to be awesome!

Who is hurt by my choices?

Sometimes it's personal, and sometimes it's business. For me, it was both. When I finally walked away from doing hair, it felt like a six-week goodbye tour, and man, there were lots of tears. Yes, this was me leaving for business. But the stylist and client relationships are sacred. I mean, it is your hair, after all. I did the best I could by seeing them one last time and personally introducing them to the stylist I recommended for their needs.

What are my next steps?

Now that you know what and whom your choices impact, it's time to make the plan. Where can I make peace with what I am letting go to move forward? My advice to my friend "If he's the one, he'll still be there when this program ends." I told my clients, "I picked the perfect new stylist for you, and I loved spending time together." I still see some of those past clients when I get my hair done; they hug me and are excited to hear about my new career.

Blowing up good things can make us question how sane we are. Sometimes what we needed precisely was the explosion.