2 Things to Stop Giving a F*ck About

As humans, we are social creatures. We long to be accepted and a part of a tribe. So we conform to fit in to avoid being alone. Then when we feel lost, we hear things from our group like "just worry about yourself." Okay, that's not helpful; what do you do with that?

Part of conformity is letting go of our most authentic selves to maintain relationships. I'm not sure about you, but my 20s were me wasting money doing things I didn't want to do with people I didn't end up liking. I didn't make meaningful relationships with the people I was out at the bar with late into the night because, guess what, I hate doing? Oh, that's right. I hate being out at the bars late into the night.

So what did I do to correct this? I took action. Here are two things to stop giving a f*ck about so you can thrive daily.

Stop Giving a F*ck what anyone thinks of you.

The saying "what people think of you is none of your business" hit me like when I got hit in the face with a stickball bat in middle school gym class. (A fun story for another time.)

Why do you concern yourself with what people think of you?

Let's face facts; being judged hurts. So, when someone disapproves or comments negatively about your choices, you question if your actions are right. To avoid this uncomfortable feeling, you don't take the chance. (it took everything I had not to quote Kelly Clarkson's song 'Breakaway' right here) ahh, F*ck it. "Take a chance, make a change, and breakaway."

Not taking a chance because of what people may think is holding you back. Why would you take others' judgment, because let's face it, they are judging you from THEIR perspective, NOT yours, and let it impact what you choose to do in your own life?

NOPE. DONE. We are officially not giving a f*ck about what other people think of us. They aren't us. They don't have to live with our choices every day. They don't have to live with the outcomes of those choices.

Stop Giving a F*ck what anyone else is doing.

We all know it; comparison is the enemy of joy. Yet, we linger in it on social media and in social settings. Sitting there wishing we had something another has. Maybe it's material, like a car, house, or purse. Perhaps it's immaterial; someone's confidence, ability to socialize, or whit.

Regardless of your measure, you compare your lack to their gain. How does that serve you? Quick cheat code here; IT DOESN'T.

Let's reframe our thoughts here. When you see someone with something, you lack, seriously consider what you would have to sacrifice. Is it worth giving up? Sometimes it's giving a little extra to advance in your career, and sometimes it's giving up your life to get ahead. Being careful what you wish for couldn't be more true when comparing. You are only seeing the surface level they want you to see.

You have to follow what's best for you to succeed. We have goals, BIG goals. No one but you can achieve them, so stop giving a f*ck and start living your unique and beautiful life.